Dear Friends,
I would like to share a small incident which touched me. I had gone for a small shopping with my 10 years old daughter. While returning we saw a crowded bar. She started asking about liquor and she also mentioned what she learnt at school that liquor is not good for health (injurious – familiar word?:-)). Then she mentioned that in a story she read, a lady goes to see her grandma with a cake and wine on her birthday. My daughter criticized “how bad! why is she taking wine...”. I explained to her in very cold places, people take one or two sips of wine to maintain the warmth of the body. Suddenly she asked me “you were in US, have you taken liquor?”. I am a dry person and my answer was no. She took my hand which she was holding and kissed my hand. She said “good dad!”. Wow! That was moment which I can’t describe; worth millions of certificates honoring my good conduct. I was proud.
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Friday, November 19, 2010
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Money value -- from the eye of a kid
There is no dispute in saying that the value of money is not valued by the current teen generation. This being the situation, imagine how will a 10 year old girl understand the value of money. I had a great experience in realizing that. We were returning from a small grocery shopping with my kids and nephew. On the way there was a high-end BMW car parked. Being teen age and fascinated by BMW boys, my son and nephew started discussing about the car. My daughter who also liked the car started a conversation with me.
See how the value of money is understood by kids.
My daughter who is 10 years:
“why are we not buying BMW?”.
Me: We don’t have that much money. Besides that we have a good car.
Daughter: How much would it cost?
Me: About Rs. 1 Crore (10 Million)
Daughter: What dad! Don’t you have even Rs. 1 Crore (10 Million)?
Me: No
Daughter: You say you have worked in USA and all but don’t you have Rs. 1 Crore?
(I have to justify or give a diplomatic answer )
Me: We bought a house right? So I have put good amount of money in that.
Daughter: Tell me how much money you have?
Me: I have Rs. 500 in my pocket
Daughter: No, I am asking you how much you have in the bank
Me: Why do you want to know that?
Daughter: Tell me that you have at least Rs. 1 Lakh (100,000) in the bank….
Me: Yes, I have that much and I have reserved for your educational expenses so that you can study whatever you want.
……… she paused momentarily………
Daughter: Good!
See how is taking the amount of Rs. 1 Crore so easily and climbing down to Rs. 1 Lakh. Amazing!
We need to put an effort to ensure that the kids understand the value of money.
See how the value of money is understood by kids.
My daughter who is 10 years:
“why are we not buying BMW?”.
Me: We don’t have that much money. Besides that we have a good car.
Daughter: How much would it cost?
Me: About Rs. 1 Crore (10 Million)
Daughter: What dad! Don’t you have even Rs. 1 Crore (10 Million)?
Me: No
Daughter: You say you have worked in USA and all but don’t you have Rs. 1 Crore?
(I have to justify or give a diplomatic answer )
Me: We bought a house right? So I have put good amount of money in that.
Daughter: Tell me how much money you have?
Me: I have Rs. 500 in my pocket
Daughter: No, I am asking you how much you have in the bank
Me: Why do you want to know that?
Daughter: Tell me that you have at least Rs. 1 Lakh (100,000) in the bank….
Me: Yes, I have that much and I have reserved for your educational expenses so that you can study whatever you want.
……… she paused momentarily………
Daughter: Good!
See how is taking the amount of Rs. 1 Crore so easily and climbing down to Rs. 1 Lakh. Amazing!
We need to put an effort to ensure that the kids understand the value of money.
Poem on wireless
Poem on wireless
You know we are in wireless & networking business. In my free time I wrote some poems (???) on wireless. Just fun(ny?). Write your comments….. Sorry for a long one.
Key for success is information
Key for failure is late information
Next to money
What you need in business
Not many disagree that
It is information
Information comes through connection
Wires cause weird disconnections
YugaeTech offers connectionless connection
That is “wireless” connection – it is our mantra
Right solution and committed service
No strings attached
***
Accounting data
Industrial data
Surveillance data
Wireless for any data
Worries get “tata”
With our worriless wireless
***
Without computer business is helpless
Without connection computer is useless
Our connection to computer is wireless
That will keep your business painless
***
Computers were revolution
Internet was evolution
YugaeTech provides right solution
Will take you to progression
***
Thanks for your time in reading. I know you feel like writing comments. Please go ahead write them.
You know we are in wireless & networking business. In my free time I wrote some poems (???) on wireless. Just fun(ny?). Write your comments….. Sorry for a long one.
Key for success is information
Key for failure is late information
Next to money
What you need in business
Not many disagree that
It is information
Information comes through connection
Wires cause weird disconnections
YugaeTech offers connectionless connection
That is “wireless” connection – it is our mantra
Right solution and committed service
No strings attached
***
Accounting data
Industrial data
Surveillance data
Wireless for any data
Worries get “tata”
With our worriless wireless
***
Without computer business is helpless
Without connection computer is useless
Our connection to computer is wireless
That will keep your business painless
***
Computers were revolution
Internet was evolution
YugaeTech provides right solution
Will take you to progression
***
Thanks for your time in reading. I know you feel like writing comments. Please go ahead write them.
Hi,
Willingly or unwillingly, consciously or unconsciously we are driven by our mind. To me it keeps running like a mill all the time and its pounding is in peak in the early morning. I came across the following article and made sense to me. Enjoy! [Thanks to the writer Terry Waghorn]
Are You Trapped In A Fixed Mindset? Fix It!
Terry Waghorn, 04.20.09, 3:40 PM ET
In a rut in your life, or in your career? There's just one big simple thing you have to do to get out of it, says Carol Dweck, Stanford University psychologist: Switch from a fixed mindset to a growth one.
In her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Dweck writes "For 20 years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?"
A person with a fixed mindset, she explains, believes we are all born with a certain set of skills and competencies. We either have a talent for something or we don't. It's all binary. You have artistic ability or not; you have language skills or not; you are a great natural leader or not. There is nothing in between, nor is there the possibility for serious personal development and growth. Why put a lot of effort into learning something you'll never be able to master anyway? Time and energy are better spent further honing your existing skills.
The dangers in thinking and behaving this way are as varied as they are predictable. It means success is all about showing how smart or talented you are. It's all about validating yourself. Something new is something to be avoided, as it may expose weakness. And the last thing you want to do is acknowledge and address a weakness. You'd rather pretend it doesn't exist. On those rare occasions where you are forced to confront one, you resort to the key weapons of the fixed mindset: blame, excuses and the stifling of critics and rivals.
Fortunately, Dweck says, not everyone thinks this way, and almost no one does all the time.
On the other end of the spectrum is the growth mindset. If you have a full-on growth mindset, anything and everything is possible. If there is something you have an interest in yet don't know how to do, you do whatever it takes to learn it. By stretching your comfort zone, you are able to continually develop yourself and define your own levels of success. With this mindset, even failure and criticism become opportunities to learn and grow.
Which mindset do you have? Read each of these two statements about intelligence and decide whether you mostly agree or disagree with it.
--My intelligence is something very basic about me that I can't change very much.
--I can always substantially change how intelligent I am.
Statement One is a fixed-mindset statement. Statement Two reflects the growth mindset. For intelligence you could substitute artistic talent, sports ability or leadership skill. Try it.
The good news is that even someone who has always looked at the world with a fixed mindset can change, Dweck says. Forbes recently asked her to explain the steps involved in shifting from a fixed mindset to a growth one. This was her written reply:
Begin by seeking evidence for the growth mindset in your life.
Think about an area where you once had little ability, but now you're pretty good at it. How did you make the change?
Think of someone you know who dramatically improved their performance. What did they do to make it happen?
Think about people who have done things you were sure they could never do. What does their experience tell you about our ability to develop ourselves?
Next, learn to recognize your fixed mindset when it takes over.
As you approach a challenge, your fixed mindset voice says, "Am I sure I can do it? Maybe I don't have the talent. Let's stay in our comfort zone and protect our dignity."
As you hit an obstacle, the voice says, "This would be easy if I really had talent; it's not too late to back out and save face."
As you face criticism, it quickly says, "It's not my fault."
Recognize that you have a choice.
How you treat challenges, setbacks and criticism is up to you. You can interpret them with a fixed mindset as signs that your talents are lacking, or you can interpret them with a growth mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself and expand your abilities. You decide.
As you face challenges, setbacks and criticism, listen to that fixed mindset voice and talk back to it with a growth mindset voice.
When you approach a challenge:
The fixed mindset says, "Am I sure I can do it? Maybe I don't have the talent." The growth mindset answers, "I'm not sure I can do it now, but I know I can learn."
Fixed mindset: "I'll stay in my comfort zone and protect my dignity." Growth mindset: "If I don't try, I'll automatically fail. Where's the dignity in that?"
As you hit a setback:
Fixed mindset: "This would be a snap if I really had talent." Growth mindset: "That is so wrong. Basketball wasn't easy for Michael Jordan, and inventing wasn't easy for Thomas Edison. They had a passion, and they put in tons of effort."
As you face criticism:
Fixed mindset: "It's not my fault." Growth mindset: "If I don't take responsibility, I can't fix it. Let me listen, regardless of how painful it is, and learn whatever I can."
Put the growth mindset into action.
Which voice you listen to becomes pretty much your choice. You decide whether or not you're going to:
--take on a challenge wholeheartedly,
--learn from your setbacks and try again,
--hear the criticism and act on it.
Again, the choice is yours.
Practice hearing both voices, and practice listening to and acting on the growth mindset. See how things start to change.
Terry Waghorn is an adviser to senior executives in companies ranging from small to Fortune 500. He is co-author of Mission Possible and author of The System.
Willingly or unwillingly, consciously or unconsciously we are driven by our mind. To me it keeps running like a mill all the time and its pounding is in peak in the early morning. I came across the following article and made sense to me. Enjoy! [Thanks to the writer Terry Waghorn]
Are You Trapped In A Fixed Mindset? Fix It!
Terry Waghorn, 04.20.09, 3:40 PM ET
In a rut in your life, or in your career? There's just one big simple thing you have to do to get out of it, says Carol Dweck, Stanford University psychologist: Switch from a fixed mindset to a growth one.
In her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Dweck writes "For 20 years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?"
A person with a fixed mindset, she explains, believes we are all born with a certain set of skills and competencies. We either have a talent for something or we don't. It's all binary. You have artistic ability or not; you have language skills or not; you are a great natural leader or not. There is nothing in between, nor is there the possibility for serious personal development and growth. Why put a lot of effort into learning something you'll never be able to master anyway? Time and energy are better spent further honing your existing skills.
The dangers in thinking and behaving this way are as varied as they are predictable. It means success is all about showing how smart or talented you are. It's all about validating yourself. Something new is something to be avoided, as it may expose weakness. And the last thing you want to do is acknowledge and address a weakness. You'd rather pretend it doesn't exist. On those rare occasions where you are forced to confront one, you resort to the key weapons of the fixed mindset: blame, excuses and the stifling of critics and rivals.
Fortunately, Dweck says, not everyone thinks this way, and almost no one does all the time.
On the other end of the spectrum is the growth mindset. If you have a full-on growth mindset, anything and everything is possible. If there is something you have an interest in yet don't know how to do, you do whatever it takes to learn it. By stretching your comfort zone, you are able to continually develop yourself and define your own levels of success. With this mindset, even failure and criticism become opportunities to learn and grow.
Which mindset do you have? Read each of these two statements about intelligence and decide whether you mostly agree or disagree with it.
--My intelligence is something very basic about me that I can't change very much.
--I can always substantially change how intelligent I am.
Statement One is a fixed-mindset statement. Statement Two reflects the growth mindset. For intelligence you could substitute artistic talent, sports ability or leadership skill. Try it.
The good news is that even someone who has always looked at the world with a fixed mindset can change, Dweck says. Forbes recently asked her to explain the steps involved in shifting from a fixed mindset to a growth one. This was her written reply:
Begin by seeking evidence for the growth mindset in your life.
Think about an area where you once had little ability, but now you're pretty good at it. How did you make the change?
Think of someone you know who dramatically improved their performance. What did they do to make it happen?
Think about people who have done things you were sure they could never do. What does their experience tell you about our ability to develop ourselves?
Next, learn to recognize your fixed mindset when it takes over.
As you approach a challenge, your fixed mindset voice says, "Am I sure I can do it? Maybe I don't have the talent. Let's stay in our comfort zone and protect our dignity."
As you hit an obstacle, the voice says, "This would be easy if I really had talent; it's not too late to back out and save face."
As you face criticism, it quickly says, "It's not my fault."
Recognize that you have a choice.
How you treat challenges, setbacks and criticism is up to you. You can interpret them with a fixed mindset as signs that your talents are lacking, or you can interpret them with a growth mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself and expand your abilities. You decide.
As you face challenges, setbacks and criticism, listen to that fixed mindset voice and talk back to it with a growth mindset voice.
When you approach a challenge:
The fixed mindset says, "Am I sure I can do it? Maybe I don't have the talent." The growth mindset answers, "I'm not sure I can do it now, but I know I can learn."
Fixed mindset: "I'll stay in my comfort zone and protect my dignity." Growth mindset: "If I don't try, I'll automatically fail. Where's the dignity in that?"
As you hit a setback:
Fixed mindset: "This would be a snap if I really had talent." Growth mindset: "That is so wrong. Basketball wasn't easy for Michael Jordan, and inventing wasn't easy for Thomas Edison. They had a passion, and they put in tons of effort."
As you face criticism:
Fixed mindset: "It's not my fault." Growth mindset: "If I don't take responsibility, I can't fix it. Let me listen, regardless of how painful it is, and learn whatever I can."
Put the growth mindset into action.
Which voice you listen to becomes pretty much your choice. You decide whether or not you're going to:
--take on a challenge wholeheartedly,
--learn from your setbacks and try again,
--hear the criticism and act on it.
Again, the choice is yours.
Practice hearing both voices, and practice listening to and acting on the growth mindset. See how things start to change.
Terry Waghorn is an adviser to senior executives in companies ranging from small to Fortune 500. He is co-author of Mission Possible and author of The System.
I read this article and found it meaningful. Enjoy!
The Struggle of Life
The one who does not know the struggle of life is either an immature soul, or a soul who has risen above the life of this world. The object of a human being in this world is to attain to the perfection of humanity, and therefore it is necessary that man should go through what we call the struggle of life.
The reason for life’s battle is often very small when it is looked at in the light of wisdom. This shows that the knowledge of life does not always come by battling. It comes by throwing light upon it. He is not a warrior who becomes impatient immediately, who loses his temper suddenly, who has no control over his impulses, who is ready to give up hope and courage. The true warrior is he who can endure, who has a great capacity for tolerance, who has depth enough in his heart to assimilate all things, whose mind reaches far enough to understand all things, whose very desire is to understand others and to help them understand.
Never expect that the events of life are favourable all through. You will have to make a continual struggle and fight with others, whether you like it or not, whether you love them or not. You will find that this fight must be encountered on every side. So you must face it patiently. Do not turn your back to it. Face the conflict with courage and bravery and tranquility. Since you know that you are on the path of truth you can go on trustfully. Although there is a great responsibility in this worldly life, it is through this responsibility that you are enabled to evolve spiritually. In fact your evolution will become much greater even than that of the saints who have renounced the world. The reason for this is that, when you pursue your life’s journey steadily and with tranquility through all the struggles and conflicts you have to undergo, success will surely come in time. This success will perhaps enable you in your turn to bring great success to the lives of many other souls too.
Makes sense right?
Thanks to the source: http://www.sufiorder.toronto.on.ca/lifestruggle1.htm
The Struggle of Life
The one who does not know the struggle of life is either an immature soul, or a soul who has risen above the life of this world. The object of a human being in this world is to attain to the perfection of humanity, and therefore it is necessary that man should go through what we call the struggle of life.
The reason for life’s battle is often very small when it is looked at in the light of wisdom. This shows that the knowledge of life does not always come by battling. It comes by throwing light upon it. He is not a warrior who becomes impatient immediately, who loses his temper suddenly, who has no control over his impulses, who is ready to give up hope and courage. The true warrior is he who can endure, who has a great capacity for tolerance, who has depth enough in his heart to assimilate all things, whose mind reaches far enough to understand all things, whose very desire is to understand others and to help them understand.
Never expect that the events of life are favourable all through. You will have to make a continual struggle and fight with others, whether you like it or not, whether you love them or not. You will find that this fight must be encountered on every side. So you must face it patiently. Do not turn your back to it. Face the conflict with courage and bravery and tranquility. Since you know that you are on the path of truth you can go on trustfully. Although there is a great responsibility in this worldly life, it is through this responsibility that you are enabled to evolve spiritually. In fact your evolution will become much greater even than that of the saints who have renounced the world. The reason for this is that, when you pursue your life’s journey steadily and with tranquility through all the struggles and conflicts you have to undergo, success will surely come in time. This success will perhaps enable you in your turn to bring great success to the lives of many other souls too.
Makes sense right?
Thanks to the source: http://www.sufiorder.toronto.on.ca/lifestruggle1.htm
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Reunion - a fascinating learning
Hi all,
We, engineering gradtuates of CIT (Coimbatore Insititute of Technology), Coimbatore had a reunion at our college it self. It was an grand event.
I would like to mention something different. It was a different experience no where you will get and no one can offer you. It gives a different learning in life… No one can fast forward our life and show things… but reunion helped us rewinding our thoughts with visual effects that provided self-feedback. It taught us to give importance to the right things in life. The importance that we gave to few things during our college days is immaterial today. For example, I am sure if we had met 5 or 10 years after college, our conversation would have been about salary, purchase of house, etc. But in the reunion no one discussed about it. Most of the discussion was surrounding the family and about the kids.
The decisions we made changed us at different point in time. The reunion in a way helped us understand how each step with dedication and confidence helped. There is nothing right or wrong in the decisions we had taken but as long as you do it dedicatedly and sincerely you will be a grand success.
I can give some of the examples from my own observations.
I used to think that talented persons like MP Ganesan are stuck in PSUs like NLC. But talking to him a bit suggested to me that he is doing amazing things there. They are using latest technology to take the thermal energy out without evacuating the local people. I am glad about his decision of joining NLC; and our NLC got a talented engineer. He is paying back to our country. Similarly many of CITians are with Government organizations doing more than a job. Namasivayam is the one who is brain behind running Kadamparai power plant running smoothly. Stalin is in vigilance identifying the faulty man machines. All of us know our rocket Dhan’s contributions in Indian Government’s ambitious plans. Visiting a country with a Diplomatic Visa, I consider a feather in the cap. We can list of many such achivers.....
Personally I was glad when current principal of CIT emphasized that they are happy to see 17% of CIT84 are entrepreneur as I am one of them.
Reunion - a fascinating learning. It was worth a time and money spent. Don’t miss next time.
Let us look for ways to paying back to our society.
With warm regards,
-Gri
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